when email turns on you and devours your soul

May 1, 2007

Email. One of the world’s great inventions. You can dash off a quick note to someone and when they’ve got a few minutes to reply, they send a quick note back. Doesn’t matter where you are in the world, what email system you’re using, if you’ve got spare change for a phone call. All you need is an internet connection.

My first job after college was pre-web. Sure, email existed, but it wasn’t exactly mainstream. I wrote a lot of memos at work. I would type them up, print them out, make copies, initial the From: line, and bring them to the mailroom so they could be distributed to everyone’s inboxes. You know, the physical ones on top of people’s desks. Sometimes, I had a wide cc list that included people from multiple locations. In that case, I would print my memo, walk it down to the copy center in the basement, give it to the Xerox guy we had working there full-time, wait for him to make the hundred copies, and then bring it to the mailroom. And I’d have to do things like use a yellow highlighter to mark who each copy was for on the 100 line cc list. Or stuff the copies into those interoffice envelopes for hours.

Sometimes, I wish those days were back.

My email situation has gotten so bad that when I read about email bankruptcy on valleywag, I thought I may have found the answer to my unsolvable problem. I looked at my mountain of mail and thought, what can I do other than start over? The alternatives suggested by Valleywag (that they cautioned would be too extreme for most people) didn’t seem extreme enough to help. Nor did the other solutions I read.

I had too much mail and not enough time, but I knew I had too many important messages to just dump everything. So what to do? I asked around. What do other people do? Some people said they used their inbox like a to do list. Sounds great, but my inbox had 15,000 messages in it — some read, some unread, some that I needed to deal with, some I just needed to delete. It had become impossible to even find the to dos.

What didn’t work:

  • Keeping everything in my inbox with no deleting or categorizing. I use gmail and I have filters set up that label things in mailing lists and keep them from the inbox and have a filter that labels everything addressed specifically to me, but that just wasn’t enough. My inbox was still overflowing and I had no ability to keep up with it. It was like trying to sort the ocean into three pails, each the size of a thimble, and wondering what to do with the extra water.
  • Over categorizing. Once I realized the lack of categorization wasn’t working, I set up the most granular organization system imaginable. For instance, I had Sitemaps – to do, Sitemaps – mobile, Sitemaps – blog, Sitemaps.org… you get the idea. It was just too much. I even tried setting up “to do” and “done” labels for each category. That also didn’t work. That was just hiding everything I had to do so that in addition to getting the work done, I had to work at finding it in the first place.

Clearly, I had to do something. Deleting it all and starting over with a new system was tempting, but so many people were expecting me to get back to them. I imagined a rising email army, swords raised, and the mob saying to me in perfect harmony, you killed my important email, prepare to die!

Last week, I set aside an entire day to figure it out. I went through everything in my inbox, one by one. Delete, file, need to address. I went through an entire month. And then I asked (as you do, on twitter), how far back should I go? The overwhelming twitter response was a month. If someone needs something from you and they sent you mail over a month ago, they’ll send you new mail. Or more likely, they’ll fashion a voodoo doll in your likeness, stick pins in it and throw it into a fire of burning coals and lava, but sending another email is one possibility.

So I took the plunge and moved everything from before April 1st out of my inbox and into a folder. I figured if I managed to get through the “need to address” items from April, I could start working on March. And then (after an entire day of sorting) my inbox was empty. Instantly, new mail started coming in, but with a clean inbox, it was easy to sort the new stuff.

I started tackling the highest priority mail. I am still, as it happens, tackling that high priority mail. What I really needed was a full “address email day” to follow my “email triage day”, but I had to do laundry and pack and fly to Philadelphia and speak at WebSearch University and do a few other things like that, so sadly, that full email day has not yet materialized.

I have already gotten several emails that were pings on things from pre-April and I’ve addressed those right away (guilt, you see, over sending the email to the land of email limbo in the first place), so perhaps it’s true that anything you need to address that’s older than a month will come and find you.

I discovered that I needed a new folder called “waiting”. Lots of times, once I address something, I can’t just move it to a done folder or delete it, because I’m waiting to get more information back before I can close it out. But I don’t want to keep it in my “need to address” folder, because then that’s more difficult to use as a to do list. By having a waiting folder, I can clear it from the list, but still have it handy to follow up on later. Or so the theory goes. I have barely made a dent in the to do list, much less made it to the follow up pile.

So, if you sent me mail in April, I am working on it. If you sent me mail before April, please send it again. Or at least make my voodoo doll look pretty before you throw it onto the coals.

How do you stay on top of your email? Any tips on avoiding email bankruptcy?

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The biggest thing for me is answering email ASAP – if I’m gone for a few days things get overwhelming. Also, if it falls off the first page of my inbox (most recent 100 unarchived messages) I may not see it EVER again).

I found this post helpful in streamlining things.

http://www.mattcutts.com/blog/three-solid-gmail-productivity-tips/

Good luck with your email! Hope you catch up quickly and never let it get on top of you…

>>>If you sent me mail before April, please send it again

NO GOD DAMN IT! You don’t ASK people to resend. If it is important enough to them, they will resend without asking. You don’t remind them to resend something they’ve already forgotten about woman. LMAO.

I really like the month rule. I have had emails from over a year sitting in my inbox of things that I *should* do. I felt great when I finally filed them and got them out of my sight!

Read getting things done by David Allen, period, end of story.

The ‘m’ key in Gmail.
Lets me barrel through threads I have no need for and save the rest for my frazzled attention.

Graywolf knows that of which he speaks. Merlin Mann is also a good place to start. It sounds like you’ve worked a lot of it out from first principles, but you’ll find that there are some very useful additional hints, tips and tricks…

1. Basecamp

Important stuff starts in Basecamp and shows up on the console. Email that can’t be handled immediately gets logged and tagged as a milestone or to do item.

2. Filtering

Anyone who sends me crap gets filtered. Sorry that’s so harsh, but I don’t time for crap.

3. CC discipline

Don’t CC me too much. If we are working together, log a message in Basecamp, so I can access it if I want to review the situation. Don’t force feed me info.

My box is empty at the end of every day.

easy – make a new algorithm :P

Just set up an autoresponder to send every new sender a copy of 5 unreplied emails, with an autogenerated message as follows -

‘I am currently scaling mount email. As such it has become impossible for me to reply to any further emails unless you, the sender, help me by writing intelligent sounding responses to the following 5 emails. For consideration, please forward your proposed responses by COB today for approval. Responses deemed unintelligent will be binned, and the responder blacklisted’.

If you did this cleverly, you might never have to answer another email ever again :)

Have 2 accounts 1 for essential people and the other for everyone else. On the everyone else address have it do an auto response and then make them put a password in for the email to get through to you. Only the most dedicated will even bother to do that.

Alternatively you can always get a Sherpa or two to help you with the ascent..

Getting Things Done, and ASAP – from your description (“waiting”) you are startng to reinvent it yourself, so skip the hard work and get the solution :)

I start to hyperventilate when I get more than 20 emails in my inbox – here’s what I do.

Emails that I need to keep but not necessarily read get a rule – everything from x email address goes automatically into xy archived email folder (or something similar – I have a whole folder labeled “sudoku” because in theory I have time to do those – like I said, in theory…..)

Emails that I need to do something with I touch at 8am, noon & 4pm – read it & delete it, file it or leave in inbox for handling – I find that if I file the “to dos” I don’t “to do” them.

This pretty much keeps my email box cleaned out – it also helps that our exchange server sends me nasty messages when I get too much mail in my “inbox” – this reminds me to archive often!

Good luck!
~Carrie

The worst are the emails with a reminder that pops up a few minutes later telling you that you are overdue in replying! If I ever find the idiot that showed my boss how to do that, I’ll…

search_engine_web
May 3rd, 2007 at 5:00 pm

Perhaps consider the telephone. Emails can the tubes clog, so FEWER sent, more that can flow. With telephone, no need for folders.

Vanessa

As the MD of an SME, I used to be swamped by email and coorinating many differnet business activities. I went looking for a solution last year, and found this to be absolutely superb.

http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Things-Done-Stress-Free-Productivity/dp/0142000280

Getting things done by David Allen.

I now have a “teflon” reputation – nothing sticks to me for long, my email inbox is empty and I never get stressed about not being control of everything that people are asking of me.

His techniques are highly recommended, but you have to be committed to them.

Adrian

First Matt was complaining and now you too – it’s nice to know even clever Google folks struggle with the email monster too.

No good advice here, though I do think part of what we think is a problem is just the frustration of bearing down for 5-15 minutes to quickly delete / file things of little relevance. I do a lot better when I just quickly archive things that I don’t need to deal with rather than try to mentally process each note that looks interesting.

I’ve just done the same thing – cleared out the entire gmail inbox. Feels good. Now, when things come in, I deal with them one-by-one and hit the ‘y’ key to archive them (banish them from my site) as soon as they’re dealt with. This works great, as I can see everything I haven’t looked at yet, and everything else is filed.

I have one remaining problem that I don’t have the answer too. My current system works great in ensuring I do my job and reply to everyone. But what happens when I send an email to someone *else* and they still haven’t replied in a month? I need a way of identifying email where I’m waiting for someone else – and a way of nudging them – and I’m not sure how to get round that.

The “waiting” folder I think will work for that for me. Still not sure yet, as I still have not managed to get things to point that I can actually follow up on stuff I’ve sent out.

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Well, I am have completely cut down the effort of keeping my inbox clean. On the contrary, I keep everything in my inbox, it’s easy to find ;)

My system staying on top of things is based on one simple rule – I have an automatic rule that flags messages as a “pending reply”. When I reply to it, I remove the flag. If my reply is not necessary, I am just removing the flag. The other flags I use are the following:
- attend later – for stuff not that urgent
- reference – for important piece of info that I may want to refer to later
- follow up – this is similar to your “waiting” folder
- top priority – for items that are more important that regular daily replies

Usually, I manage to keep my “pending reply” list empty by the end of the day. Approx once a week, I am cleaning the items that I already replied but forgot to unflag. Then, if there are any unreplied items forgotten, they pop out.

Experience shows that items in attend later are either becoming irrelevant for me or I get reminded about them by the sender. After reading your post, I think I’ll delete the ones that are one month old :)

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All I could think of was, “From beneath you it devours” :)

It doesn’t matter how far I go to clear my inbox today, the day after tomorrow it will have 100 messages. That is the magic number.. I’m at 107 right now.. I don’t filter anything into folders are they would just never be read that way.

I guess what you need is a ticketing system :)

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